One Thing
January 17th is National Quitters day, and it is the day most people give up on their New Year’s resolutions.
Staying productive while working from home
What type of habits do you think could benefit those of us who are working from home right now? What do we need to adopt?
Roger’s 2 Cents – 3 of 3 Corona Virus Edition
The third thing is because of the quarantine, many people are for the first time at home and working and they’re not doing really well. I’ve been home except for two trips to the grocery store for 20 days. And I’ve worked at home for probably the last 10 or 15 years. So I understand working at home. So let me give you a couple things that I’ve learned about working at home.
Roger’s 2 Cents – 2 of 3 Corona Virus Edition
In the last segment I talked about fear and control and how fear and control are inextricably linked. How there’s very often a legitimate relationship between fear and control. In this segment, I want to talk about fear and information gathering. When we can’t control something, when there’s a thing in our life that we can’t control, what we then do is we substitute information gathering.
Roger’s 2 Cents – 1 of 3 Corona Virus Edition
I am now on my back patio in Idaho. We’re in the middle of the coronavirus quarantine and I have not been out of my house except to go to the grocery store twice, haven’t been out of my house for 20 days, but I have been on the phone with lots and lots of my clients and I thought I would do a, a video series and try to get them out and in somewhat rapid succession to answer some of the common questions and to address some of the common issues that my clients have brought to me. So there are basically three parts that I want to talk about.
Resilience Tip from Japan
Help others.That seems obvious, but let me talk about our society. Our society has created a therapy culture and my profession is probably guiltier than any other. We think if we go and pay somebody money for fifty minutes of their time just to whine and complain, then we’ll feel better. I’ll tell you the …
Better Than Self Esteem
I’m going to introduce to you a fundamentally different concept with a slightly different name. That concept was self-esteem. The concept I want you to get is self-efficacy. While it sounds the same, it is quite different than self-esteem. Self-efficacy is looking for evidence in your past. It’s asking yourself, “What have I done in my life that I …
Self Esteem is Bankrupt
I’m going to get on my soapbox here. My profession talks a lot about self-esteem. You’ve heard it. “You know you need to feel good about yourself. You’re good enough. You’re smart enough and doggone it, people like you enough to vote you as the Senator for Minnesota.” We think that self-esteem is important. Let …
Man’s Search for Meaning
What’s one of the greatest books written in the twentieth century? It’s “Man’s Search for Meaning“, by Viktor Frankl. I strongly recommend it. Viktor Frankl was an Austrian Jew, captured and put in Auschwitz and Dachau slave labor camps. It is his story of survival of the prison camps and it is one of the …
Tied up in the Woods
Do you know what SERE training is? The acronym SERE stands for: Survival/Evasion/Resistance/Escape – it is the closest thing to torture we do to our citizens. The Air Force, the Navy, and the Army all put their pilots through this training. I hated it, but I’m glad I did it. In SERE training, they set …