When you’re at work, you feel pressured to get home and make that a priority. When you’re at home, you feel pressured to get to work and make that a priority. In the end, you feel like you’re failing at both.
I prefer the approach that follows this quote, “The master in the art of living makes little distinction between his work and his play, his labor and his leisure, his mind and his body, his education and his recreation, his love and his religion. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence at whatever he does, leaving others to decide whether he is working or playing. To him, he’s always doing both.” That’s written by Lawrence Pearsall Jacks. Though it’s widely attributed to some Zen Buddhist, or James Michener, or Chateau Brianne.
If you’re doing what you love, it doesn’t matter if you’re working or playing.
Unfortunately, many people do work out of fear. Usually the fear of poverty. If I don’t work at this job, I won’t be able to pay my mortgage, my student loans, my kid’s orthodontia. The list goes on. Pretty soon you’re imagining that you’re living in a van down by the river. It’s that kind of thinking that will never get you to balance or for that matter excellence in what you do. Of course, you have to pay your bills. I’m not advocating dropping out of life. I am advocating that the best way to have balance in your life is to figure out what you love instead of working and living out of fear or guilt.
I’m dr. Roger Hall, and I hope this was helpful.